It was the weekend and I had another argument with my husband. ‘We’re arguing every day, we need to sort this out,’ I said before I left the house to go for a walk. I closed the door behind me and started walking. Tears came out. Tears of frustration, tears of disappointment. Nothing I …
Yesterday I was given a ’I’m IN’ sticker outside of Balham station. I stuck it to my coat (yes, the coat I still wear even though it’s end of June!) and felt a surge of happiness that I was part of a tribe. A tribe of sane and intelligent people campaigning tirelessly for what should …
Almost three years ago, in the middle of The Love Project, I was having a conversation with a male friend over lunch. He complained to me about a girl he started seeing that took hours to respond to his texts and sometimes even days. ‘I don’t understand,’ he said. ‘It’s not like she doesn’t like …
You must wonder what it took to make me go through The Love Project. As with all big decisions, it takes something dramatic. It took one last straw to break the camel’s back to motivate me to want to change my life or a particular aspect of it. Until then, my actions in love were governed …
It’s Sunday, I’ve had another long week at work, my muscles and my joints hurt everywhere, and I’m at the yoga class. I really would rather not be there. I can’t be asked to do vinyasas and breath audibly and turn my attention inwards. I kind of want to sulk a little bit because on …
”When you squeeze an orange, you’ll always get orange juice to come out. What comes out is what’s inside. The same logic applies to you: when someone squeezes you, puts pressure on you, or says something unflattering or critical, and out of you comes anger, hatred, bitterness, tension, depression, or anxiety, that is what’s …
In one of the early chapters of The Love Project I had to reframe my relationship with rejection. When another guy I had been dating who seemed to be a very promising prospect went radio silence on me, I was quick to interpret his reaction as a personal failure. I certainly wasn’t on to a …
I used to think I was an unlucky girl because my father was an abusive alcoholic whose behaviour inflicted serious trauma on both my mother and myself. But now I think I am a very lucky girl because I may not have been given the best father but I have the mother of all mothers. And …
’Personal power is the ability to take action’ – Anthony Robbins One day something happens. It can be something mundane, or something traumatic. One can never tell. But it’s something targeted, like a laser beam aimed at a switch inside your brain. And there’s a sudden click and then the silence that always comes with …
’11 Feb 2013, London Yo Iulia, I am writing this letter to you only to list a few things I am now deeply convinced you will achieve and a lot more!’ This is how my letter to myself starts. The letter I wrote at the beginning of the The Love Project, which I found …
